A veil called change..
More we live, more we learn. Something that seems natural and obvious isn’t quite true this time.
‘Changes’ , Oxford defines it as ‘an act or process through which something becomes different’. I don’t agree.
Change is not an act in itself, it is the name given to the activities that are unconventional and non-routine. You can’t say am changing to imply that you are developing new habits and patterns.
Change has been always used as a veil to hide the details. I realize it when people say the line ‘I am going through changes’ or ‘Life is changing’ when they are asked about what’s going on with them. This makes them pass away the question easily not needing to dole out the details anymore.
‘Change’ is also a shield, when you make mistakes you blame it on the change. Change is the process that made you do different things and they turned out wrong. So, the culprit… Change itself.
From Ministers to their secretaries, change is what figures in their failure reports. Even children use the change of a teacher as an excuse to less grades.
What bothers me here, is not the excuse but the habit that we have cultivated of blaming things to the process and not ourselves. Change is good, it can be bad too. But, hardly anyone makes his credit go to the ‘change’. It is usurped like the land inherited and the faults are thrown out to the processes, Change is just one of them.
When we fail, continuously, our excuses also fail and a change is needed. Not of the excuses but in the habits. Blame has to go and action has to come.
Realization dawns when we go the hard way, get some beating and then only, the lesson gets concrete in our mind.
My last word here would be a friendly advice:
“Change, But don’t blame it for your faults. It’s who you change.”
Would love to know your views. 🙂